Tea Parties Don’t Stop At A Certain Age; Here’s How Not Your Mama’s Tea Keeps Sisterhood On The Right Page
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Have you ever noticed just how closely our kids’ toys and games mimic real-life experiences and elements that are a part of their elders’ lives? Each year, millions of dollars are poured into the sales of fake kitchenette sets, baby dolls, and medical supplies that allow children to pretend to be the most prestigious doctor in their homes. They not only fill excitement inside the kiddos from head to toe but it opens a glimpse of what adulthood will look like. It’s no secret that us grown folk have access to a whole ‘nother world as well as a right of passage to do as we please and make all decisions on our own; whereas children coming behind us have restriction after restriction. Ironically, one of the few things children get to enjoy that takes up the majority of adult’s leisure time is partying. Think about it /CW fam kids have a party for any and everything. I know you remember those Valentine’s day parties at the end of the day. Although there are hundreds of different types of parties such as birthdays, engagements, housewarmings, and even pizza parties, we used to collect a mountain hill of box tops for each party, which mirrored the same purpose. No matter how star-studded or lowkey the party is, the goal of letting loose, enjoying one another, and living in the moment remains the same. Surprisingly, there’s one kind of party that kids have on lock over their parents. (Drum roll please……….) Tea Parties!
The representation and lifestyle element of tea has always held high importance and demand in select counties including prestigious kingdoms and well respected cultures. However; the country labeled as innovative, spontaneous, and welcoming (The United States) did not gift tea the well deserved representation and education as others. Within the past five years, that narrative has done a complete 180-degree turn and it has now caused an international frenzy. Primetime showrunners and writers, including one of the industry's fairy godmothers, Shonda Rimes, have become heavyweight champs in creating stories and yellow brick roads to the doors where tea parties and the drink's social impact are the main setting and primary gears that heighten the story. The roles have reversed, and now children are educating their teachers, parents, and grandparents on how the theme is supposed to be carried out in an authentic yet organic light.
Although it would be easy and smooth to give all the credit to those behind the scenes of your favorite shows like award-winning Bridgerton, the real impact comes from everyday people hosting themed events and centering tea into their daily routine like founder of Not Your Mama’s Tea, Rhonda Hill.
An intergenerational tea social club that strengthens both personal and professional relationships amongst the black community is what can describe Not Your Mama’s Tea. I view this phenomenon as the medium between “The Pit” and Khadijah James magazine Flavor in ‘90s hit sitcoms Living single & A Different World. A seed was planted inside founder Rhonda Hill back in 2018 when the unicorn launched in Milwaukee, WI.
“The inspiration is about honoring the rich history and influence of tea in communities worldwide while incorporating it with hip-hop culture. Tea has always been a connector, much like music. It’s about providing a space where people can engage with tea culture and Black culture. Often afternoon tea time comes with thoughts of English tea time, with hats and gloves like Queen Elizabeth. As an avid tea drinker, I wanted to make sure I reflected my own Black culture when hosting an afternoon tea, thus tea for the culture.”- Rhonda Hill
She made an interesting observation that struck me. Now I want you to be honest with yourself; when you think of tea what spaces and faces pop up in your head? For most people, they think of the UK, royalty and early 1600s interactions. On the other hand what comes to mind when you think of hip-hop culture? The scoreboard becomes filled with vocabulary such as energetic, loud, wild, colorful wardrobe and minority faces. Hill and her team found this to be unfair and mind-blowing how African-Americans; especially women, are not illustrated and represented in spaces that have tea at the forefront. This harsh reality lit a fire in her to create her business and start carving out an identity for black culture in the polished light of the beloved beverage. A simple idea to make tea and hip hop culture the hot new combo on the block quickly grabbed the eyes and ears of our city’s bold yet underground community of black women who are hardly recognized.
The cultural innovation held its latest event on February 16th, 2025 at Milwaukee's Hip Hop Museum at 2222 N 19th St Milwaukee, WI. Soulful music served with a platter of intentional yet entertaining conversations regarding career development, self-identity, wearing a million hats as a black woman and true love for hip hop was carefully curated by Not Your Mama’s Tea during the afternoon. A light was shed on the newfound trend surrounding Valentine’s Day which is Galentines. Many mistake this day for only recognizing and praising romantic love but Galentines has rebirthed the structure of the national holiday. Thousands of friend groups are celebrating each other by having cozy girls’ night ins, a night on the town or intimate spaces to highlight their friendships. Hill and her team incorporate this type of atmosphere and sense of belonging all year round; not just for Galentines. Sisterhood shouldn't be celebrated during only one month out of the year when we are all sisters 365 days a year.
“The culture of our events is all about inclusivity, relaxation, and celebration of ‘girlfriend’ culture. We create a space where women can unwind, enjoy quality tea, and vibe to great music, especially hip-hop. It’s about blending different aspects of life—culture, music, and community—into a warm welcome. We have been hosting parties at the Milwaukee Hip Hop Museum, making for a great blend of hip hop and tea.” - RH
Tea parties shouldn't end once of our little girls becomes a teenager or reach womanhood. They mirror a safe space for women to let their guard down and tune in their inner Angela Bassett in What’s Love Got To Do With It, where she played Tina Turner finding peace as she chanted “Nam-myoho-renge-kyo” and drunk tea. Since 2014, it's become one of the highest in demand beverages of the African-American household; acting as a bridge between social and health perspectives. Hill has made it a point to throw a variety of events using this framework such as birthday parties, community events and action plan workshops. You ever notice how when women are in union with one another there's always time for a good drink and plate of food made with love. No matter if it was Joan, Lynn, Maya and Toni in Girlfriends or Kim, Niecey, and Moesha in Moesha; drinks and food always served as comfort and connection.
“Tea is a universal symbol of comfort and conversation. We chose tea because it is one of my favorites, making it a great way to blend my enjoyment of tea with my desire to connect and serves women. It’s not just about sipping great tea—it’s about creating a moment of connection. Tea encourages slow, intentional interactions, and that’s the kind of energy we want to cultivate in our events.”- RH
Do you feel that nobody can relate, understand or connect with you both socially and emotionally? Maybe you want space as a black woman to just be yourself without all the expectations and just looking for a good time to let your hair down and not be required to be superwoman all day. Become a member of the social club by booking your next event with them or purchasing a ticket for the company's next event on their website: https://www.notyourmamastea.com/.
Join the circle by following their Instagram @Tea4TheCulture as well to get access to the next sip of tea curated specifically for you. Comment down below what type of event you want to see next from them. In the meantime ladies I challenge you to drink your favorite blend of tea while bopping a hip hop song you can't live without.
Desriana Gilbert | Entertainment & Social Journalist for /CW
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Nō Studios’s Dance Fest 2025 Brings World-Class Talent to Milwaukee for a Day of Celebration and Performance
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The fourth annual celebration will be headlined by Alvin Ailey II and bring together dance companies throughout the midwest to celebrate the region’s rich contribution to the arts
Nō Studios, a center for the creative arts and activism in downtown Milwaukee, is proud to announce the return of Dance Fest on Saturday, August 2, 2025. Now in its fourth year, Dance Fest continues to grow, bringing together a curated lineup of performances from Water Street Dance Milwaukee, Madison Ballet, and more. Alvin Ailey’s Ailey II will headline the festival, marking a significant milestone in Dance Fest’s evolution. This year’s annual festival will showcase a variety of genres, including ballet, salsa, African-inspired, Irish stepdance, and contemporary.
Nō Studios was founded by Milwaukee native and Oscar winning screenwriter John Ridley, whose family has long been a part of the fabric of Milwaukee arts and politics, working to amplify underrepresented voices, and elevate the city as a vibrant arts destination. Built as a collaborative, social community for artists and activists, Nō Studios hosts screenings and panel discussions, invests in local artists through gallery showings and live performances, and produces original television programs, including Creating Milwaukee, mini-documentary series focusing on Milwaukee creatives across various disciplines.
“We’re thrilled to return for another year of Dance Fest,” said John Ridley, the founder of Nō Studios who has worked to elevate Milwaukee’s profile as a vibrant arts destination. “Bringing these exceptional companies together in Milwaukee—a city that thrives on creativity and collaboration—perfectly reflects the values of this festival. We are excited to gather these visionary dance groups and celebrate the diverse cultures and talents that define dance.”
This year’s Dance Fest will feature the return of Morgan Williams, founder of Water Street Dance Milwaukee, as curator of the event. “This festival is a powerful platform for showcasing the immense talent of the Midwest’s dance community,” said Williams. “Each year, Dance Fest fosters meaningful connection between dancers and audiences, and I’m thrilled to play a part in shaping this celebration of artistry and culture.”
Danni Gee, Director of Programming for New York City’s The Joyce Theater, one of the few theaters in the world created specifically for dance, will emcee the evening performance. “It’s an honor to return to Dance Fest,” said Gee. “The festival continues to grow in scope and impact, showcasing an extraordinary range of talent from Milwaukee and beyond. Nō Studios’ commitment to celebrating dance is truly inspiring.”
Dance Fest 2025 will feature performances by:
Ailey II: The next generation of dance, Alvin Ailey’s junior company is renowned for merging the spirit and energy of the next generation with the creative vision of emerging choreographers.
Water Street Dance Milwaukee: Dedicated to exploring diversity within their art, artists, and audiences, the company is renowned for their athletic, innovative, and entertaining performances. They were named to Dance Magazine's “25 to Watch” list in 2024.
Madison Ballet: Wisconsin’s second-largest dance organization is under the direction of Ja’ Malik and is focused on building a better community through art.
Nō Studios looks forward to welcoming more participating companies throughout the Midwest as their program continues to grow.
Dance Fest will take place at the Marcus Performing Arts Center’s outdoor Peck Pavilion, along the Milwaukee River. The family-friendly festival will also include youth dance performances, a community centric daytime program, live music, local food vendors, and a chance to get a behind-the-scenes look at the technical rehearsal.
“We are delighted to host Dance Fest for the second year in a row,” said Kevin Giglinto, President & CEO of the Marcus Performing Arts Center. “Like Nō Studios, we’re dedicated to sharing high-quality arts and cultural programming with our community, and are honored to provide a stage for these extraordinary dance companies.”
Performances and programming will take place Saturday, August 2, with tickets priced at $20-$30. Tickets will go on sale [INSERT DATE] at nostudios.com/dance-fest-2025.
Dance Fest is sponsored by the Marcus Performing Arts Center, The Joyce Theater, and media partner WISN 12 News.
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Snap Shot Press Release: To The Unseen Black Queen, Your Reflection Is My Protection| Destinny Fletcher Gives You, "Day 12 and Still No Wi-Fi"
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Lying, thinking last night
How to find my soul a home/Where water is not thirsty
And bread loaf is not stone/I came up with one thing
And I don’t believe I’m wrong
That nobody/ But nobody
Can make it out here alone
Alone/All Alone
Nobody but nobody can make it out here alone
-Alone By: MAYA ANGELOU
Why is the word alone the name tag for all African-American women throughout reality and the big screen? Why is their loaded baggage involuntarily assigned to us with no boarding number and vacation villa to follow? Whether you’re a woman living in a 1st, 2nd or 3rd world country, no vast landscape can terminate the unspoken rule given to any black woman at birth:
You have no chance to make mistakes, be vulnerable or lean on others;
you can only be superwoman!
Every struggle each of us face are not duplicated but our responses are often replicated. It’s a natural reaction to create solutions and make sweet lemonade out of every lemon thrown at you. Millions pay the cost of internal self-medicating, silencing themselves and bearing the weight of others’ problems to distract from their personal turmoil. There are only a handful who trade in those costs for unknown feedback, reliving emotional rollercoasters, and one H-E-double hockey sticks of a journey. Author and poet, Destinny Fletcher is the face of that handful.
Bold and inspirational author, Destinny Fletcher also known as “Deolinda Abstrac” has constructed such a captivating voice through artistic expression for over a decade. From the time she could walk, Fletcher was charismatic, strong and an active community member. Her mother enrolled her into over seven Milwaukee recreational programs such as ballet, african-dancing, culinary and poetry. Destinny was not intimidated; rather she consistently embraced new experiences with her extroverted and energetic personality. Unfortunately, having a supportive and art-centered family as well as a dynamic social life did not exempt her from the inevitable and traumatic aftermath of being an African-American woman. In exchange for walking into unknown responses, marking her life from ink to paper, and going through all the motions, she has amplified her voice to a new level.
December 17th, 2024, the latest self-published, unfeigned and raw Deolinda Abstrac release of Day 12 and Still No Wi-Fi raised the ears and heartstrings of many readers. It is an eight year vulnerable recollection of trauma, observations, and monumental snapshots. The candid and resilient read emphasizes the contradicting relationship between social media and mental health. The unapologetic memes, polished lifestyles, and creative aesthetics play the role of distracting the narrator from the emotional, mental and physical challenges she describes throughout the adventurous read. Day 12 and Still No Wi-Fi bravely invites those who wear masks they never take off, disguising the melancholy frenzy and corridor of unexplainable emotions only to discover they are not an outlier.
Clawed walls, piercing cells, and electronic lockdown systems are not the only forms of imprisonment. Fletcher carves a raw perspective by vividly placing a single mother living in Milwaukee, WI while being a healthcare worker and studying public speaking at the forefront of the contemporary read. The headstrong and courageous mother admits feeling stripped of freedom. Imprisonment is the center of her life and has always been; as it consistently creates a web affecting her emotional, physical, and mental capacities. The second chapter, The Beckoning, cultivates such an eerie yet liberating framework of how harsh and careless the world views and treats the physical bodies of black people; specifically black women. It’s often exploited and oversexualized but our bodies function as a place of nurture, legacy, and art even though many black women use none of these functions to uplift and care for themselves. The powerful author shares the past and present behavior that devalues and harms our lives on the daily but quickly follows with words of encouragement to celebrate, emphasize and embody the royal temple, also known as a black woman’s body. She’s essentially challenging all African-American women to end the routine of loading all unrealistic expectations, increased work quantity, and unaddressed violations before we step into the world and begin playing our role.
Accessorizing ourselves with additional job titles whether in career fields or personal relationships has never filled the enormous void every black woman has felt for at least a year of their life; unseen. No matter how many hats we wear or how different they are from one another; Destinny graphically illustrated not only the feeling but perseverance of not being seen.
Page 61 of the text reads:
No one asked me if I am okay
Or if I remember what day it is
Or am I going through a crisis
Or have I eaten today
Or if my mental state is kosher
Or is my soul safe
No one has asked me and I am starting to think that the world does
not care for such little insight.
The internal war within ourselves to ger out of that queen sized bed, one of the few places where Black Queen feels in reach. For others, your family and friends makes you feel seen but it’s questioned once you enter the elevator at work; which is why overachiever, problem-solver, and team player has become your middle names. The bold inspirationalist not only releases this weight in her book but sat down with me to explain a brilliant revelation:
“We are the performers. The family that’s heavily involved in the arts and rescues everyone else from their downfalls; but in the midst of that we are creating our own without even realizing it”.
-Community Health Advocate/Author/Art Educator Destinny Fletcher
It’s why striving to be perfect in our adolescence and adulthood is the goal because it’ll mask the pain, insecurities, and disappointment with the feeling of finally being seen. But what does being seen mean if you’re fading away on the other side of the mirror?
The conclusion that experiencing freedom and sense of belonging can be apart of our life stories clicks when a black woman does what she already knows; take matters into her own hands. Throughout Day 12 and Still No Wi-Fi, writing gave Destinny power and surge. From her admirable public speaking homework to tackling every health issue for her community, flashes of confidence, acceptance and strength exuded through the pages of the book. It was as if Deolinda Abstrac was staring at you asking, “Do you feel this way too?”.
The devastation of sexual harassment, suppressing sexuality, and becoming a creative working on fumes planted the seed of Chapter 29: Day 12. For example, the text reads:
I forgot who I was
Correction: Who I am?
Maybe they haven’t asked because I haven’t left my room in four days
Disconnecting from the world is one of the top defense mechanisms used by African-American women but why? The jaw-dropping read delicately explains how the art of disconnection is subconsciously taught by our families. By age twelve to fourteen, laundry, knowing our way around the kitchen, working for dollars, and nurturing others has become second nature. While our parents and grandparents assume they’re teaching independence, isolation and disconnection are hiding in plain sight, finding easier pathways into the minds of children. This is why failures are often hidden from family members because it seems since childhood; there was rarely positive reinforcement and feedback. As young girls, it’s easy to mimic what fills your eyes. Some parents utilized extended time in the restroom for breaks away from the world, while others gained dependence on substance abuse or dating frequently. Required to stand on your own and execute your life plan to a tee, weakens a black woman’s ability to admit she’s not okay and to ask for help. However; this is the conversation replacing in our minds:
I’m not crazy.
I swear I cannot ask my parents for help.
I’m an adult in my 20s, so I can control myself and I can take care of SELF.
Being independent shouldn’t erase the natural law; we all fall at least once in our lives and should be guided by those who love and support us the most. Too much pride is carried inside blocking anybody from knowing and helping black women when the feeling of being lost and hitting their lowest point takes a turn. As a result, the conversation about faith and good people comes into play. “Why do bad things happen to good people? Does God love me?” are the first two questions asked.
Day 12 and Still No Wi-Fi is more than a shocking page-turner. In my opinion, it was a statement to all African-American women from Destinny saying, “Girl, me too! I see you and have the same struggles as you”. I’m not the only one that was mesmerized and captivated by this new read. Reporter, journalist, and photographer Princess Safiyah Byars described Fletcher’s latest masterpiece as such: “In a time where everything seems polished to perfection, Day 12 and Still No Wi-Fi stands out as a raw, and unfiltered masterpiece. A heartfelt sharing of personal and communal emotional trauma that is as moving as it is relatable. With the rhythm of a journal and the grace of poetry, Destinny invites us through scenes, each one stepped in vulnerability, truth, and unyielding resolve to confront life’s shadows. This work delves into the depths of depression, the dangers of overworking, and the nuanced struggles of sexual freedom– offering a lens into the intricate, and often overlooked mental health battles of black women. Destinny’s voice is both intimate and universal capturing pain, triumph, and humanity. This book is more than a compilation of stories; it is a testament to resilience, a tribute to the courage it takes to own one’s narrative, and a call to embrace vulnerability as a source of strength. There is an unflinching honesty here, inviting readers to sit with the discomfort and beauty of it all. For anyone who has ever felt the weight of societal expectations, the loneliness of mental health struggles or the complexities of self-discovery, this book will resonate deeply”. -Princess Safiyah Byars
To every black woman gracing the earth, you are not crazy, overly aggressive, or weak. We all experience a rollercoaster of unexplainable emotions but rarely speak about them until our breaking points. There’s a stigma that mental health issues only looks one way or experienced only if someone’s life is in shambles. What about the honor roll straight A student who just got a full-ride to college? Or the woman whose packing poetry clubs every week giving her peers hope and laughter? Destinny wrote such a compelling yet authentic story that every black women can identify with by the first five minutes of reading. I appreciate how she added the element of individuality into the book as she inserted pictures from early life to now, loose-leaf poetry clippings, and her own story throughout the read. She shared the honest journey of her sexuality with both men and women, being a survivor of sexual harassment, and the impact the Coronavirus pandemic had on her own mental health as motivating puzzle pieces to Day 12 and Still No Wi-Fi. An S.O.S letter to all black women with no sugarcoating involved, educating them that they are not alone. It’s a moment where no competition or judgement should be near, rather a state of sisterhood and opportunity for the difficult conversations we don’t even have with ourselves. This highly anticipated, surreal and strong reawakening to the name Destinny Fletcher was well worth the wait.
Grab this read so that mental health is no longer taboo to you and to strengthen your journey of finding yourself. Purchase the exciting adventure on Destinny Fletcher’s website at http://dabstrac.com/ Follow Destinny on instagram and facebook @dabstrainc
She sees you!
Desriana Gilbert/ Entertainment & Social Journalist for CW
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/CopyWrite Magazine is a household name throughout the city of Milwaukee; specifically the Bronzeville neighborhood. We are known for our flavor wordplay, graphics, and timeless issues. However; it is time for the physical building {CopyWrite Creative Shop + Studio} to receive the same attention and identity as the magazine platform. There are a plethora of unique, eccentric, fun, and jam-packed events thrown in the space month in and month out but it’s not documented as much as it could be. Here are " Testimonials" from our community members and their experiences with /CW.
